What a wife expects from her husband.

Dalip Singh Wasan, Advocate.

A successful wife knows that she has left the house of her parents and now she has joined this house where shall be spending the remaining part of her life. Therefore, her shifting from the house of her parents is permanent and if she is divorced or she leaves the house of her in laws and goes back to the house of her parents, they may be allowing her to come and settle with them, but all shall be done with heavy heart and most of the people, especially wives of her brothers would not accept this permanent settlement and they would not allow her to have the same relations with her brothers which had been having prior to her marriage. Similarly the relations, the neighbours and others who shall be visiting the house shall not be accepting this shifting good for the family. They shall suggest that either she should go back to the house of her husband or if she has divorced, then she must be settled with another man.

The wife knows all this and therefore, it is her first desire that she could be adjusted in this new house. She had been having some desires when she was unmarried and when she has joined this house, even then she has got some desires in her mind. She may be tolerating some excesses, but we should never presume that she is accepting all this and if she has got her own resources, then there are chances she may leave this husband and establish herself totally separately.

She had been having in her mind that her husband should have got proper education, proper training and proper work from where he is carrying proper income with which he is in a position to run the family administration. She wants status of her husband at work place, in the house, in the neighbourhood, in the society and amongst his relations. She wants that her husband should be handsome, should be having good health, good reputation, does not fall ill, is not weak is not a drunkards, an opium eater, a drug addict, a gambler and he is not wasting his time outside the house. She wants that her husband should back from the work place in time and must go to work in time. She wants that her husband should not have extra matrimonial relations, should not be visitor to the prostitutes, to the dancing girls, to the singing girls, is not omitting rape and adultery or having a keep. She shall like that her husband is having only one woman and that is she herself and no other woman. The husband who wants to keep good relations with his wife must know all these items of woman psychology and must follow these principles throughout till he is with this wife.

A wife wants that her husband should meet her demands and should listen to her. The men who while going out come to the wife and ask for her demands and if something she needs, the husband should return with that article and should not give lame excuses. He must help her in domestic work and must have praise for his wife. He should never fail to praise her preparations in the kitchen, her clothes, her beauty, he behaviour, her talks, her hair or the like. He must repeat time and again that he is very luck who could get such a beautiful wife. He must have all praise for parents of the wife and should never comment upon on dowry items and on persons in the house of her parents.

The husband should obey his wife because he must know that the woman actually wants a person who obeys her and if he fails to obey, she would not like this man. He must have faith in her and must accept that she is most intelligent and therefore, he must share all his problems with this wife and must not keep anything secret from her. She would not tolerate if the husband is keeping something secret and sharing the same with his sisters or mother. She desires that her husband should have first consultation with her and if the problems is not solved, only then he should talk with other members of the family and that too after she gives her consent.

These are the minimum demands of the wife and only those men are successful husbands who obey their wives and live like slaves with them. The days are gone when the husband was called the master of the house. Actually this wife is the real owner and master of the house and the husband should accept this fact of life if he wants to live a happy married life.

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